After we “tie the knot”, many of us, unfortunately create unhealthy attachments using the very knot that is meant to strengthen our bond. Unconsciously, the very knot meant to bind us in love, becomes tangled along the way. 

We become so busy creating the life we think we should be living, creating more knots along the way, thinking that we are reinforcing the bond.

Then we stop one day, and look around, and we realise that we are tangled. Try to untangle now and it becomes difficult. Have you ever tried untangling a complicated knot as a couple, especially as a couple that is angry with each other?

We lose ourselves, the space and the freedom to be who we were before marriage and who we were meant to be in marriage. We forget that we entered into this relationship as two complete individuals, meant to enhance each others lives and not to deplete, own and control each other. Yes, we arrive with our past traumas and our baggage, but our love is supposed to help us heal through those. We want unconditional love, but we come into the relationship ourselves with a bag full of conditions using the past paradigms to frame it all. We want our partners to fit into our boxes. 

Instead of growing as two separate individuals,  together, we grow into co-dependent individuals tangled in despair, losing our essence. We lose sight of our souls’ purpose, our gifts and our freedom to “Just Be”.

This results in conflict and power struggles from the co-dependent relationship filled with unmet expectations, resentment, anger, frustrations of unmet needs and unfulfilled dreams and wishes.

Sometimes to let go, we create additional conflict and conflict when left unmanaged or if managed poorly turns into hate, anger and sometimes violence.

I founded Untangled Love to help you consciously and peacefully separate amicably whilst maintaining peace, preserving your wealth  and preserving your family unit, without the trauma and conflict that is usually associated with divorces. 

The staggering stats demonstrate that divorce is not uncommon, therefore the stigma and old paradigms around divorcing needs to shift as I help you navigate and normalize the process of Untangling, and divorcing peacefully from a marriage.

I will connect you with tools, research, personal stories, and a network of likeminded individuals who have the same goals of peace, healing and growth. 

Growing apart, is still growth. You should allow for the release of two free independent whole souls who no longer need to be connected physically and co-dependently but can continue to be connected through wisdom, knowledge, love and a higher power. 

I can guide you to achieve your “Happily, Ever After” post-divorce and raise happy healthy well-adjusted children.

Untangled Love has been born out of my own experience of a high conflict divorce created out of fear and co-dependency. After experiencing the inefficiencies and maladministration of the legal system first hand, experiencing how conflict is deepened in a corrupt inefficient legal system, how families are torn apart, how costs escalated with little control and the impact on children of divorce, I made a conscious decision to turn my pain into the power through the creation of Untangled Love.

Using Mediation as a tool for peaceful separations, I understand the benefits and the positive impact that collaborative communications and working together when untangling, can have on your future growth and the well-being of yourself and your children. Placing your children at the center of your decisions instead of the center of your arguments brings about mutual interests where love exists. 

Mediation is an alternative to litigation and the benefits are not well communicated nor are people educated on the merits of mediation. The legal system is abused for profit often. Whilst litigation works in the interest of winning for a client at all costs, mediators look at the underlying interests of both parties and for the best interest of the children.

I hope that my experience, my story, my personal journey, my expertise, knowledge and network can benefit you as it did me as I navigated through one of the most traumatic experiences of my life.

With this, I share my gifts with you, with love and peace and hope so that you too can find your “Happily, Ever After” through the services of Untangled Love.